Mindful Notes

“I don’t know how you listen to people’s problems all day.”

“I don’t’ know how you listen to people’s problems all day.”

 If I had a dollar for everytime someone, usually a client sitting across from me, said that, I could quit working and live on it for the rest of my life.

 But the thing is, I wouldn’t.

I know it’s trite to say I love my job, and when I hear the words fall from my mouth I am aware of their inadequacy, how they don’t begin to capture the privilege imbued in being invited into a client’s inner life, the meaning I find in watching someone practice and integrate new, healthier beliefs and behaviours, and the joy and calm that fills me when I’m in the room, working, utterly focussed and connected.

I think of it as mindfulness in action, and I notice how my own brainbots (anxiety-driven thoughts and beliefs) settle down in the morning as I begin my workday. The stress of public transport, urban life, domestic chores, and construction clatter, quietens into the distance as I immerse myself in the present moment and focus.

 Why are we here together?

 How can I help?

 I’m curious. Please tell me more.

 Let’s look at it from this angle. Now that.

 Ah! Did you catch that glimmer too? That bit of insight?

 The hour melts. I imagine my calmness enveloping the person across from me.

 The thing is, you don’t have to be a psychologist to find that space. Be curious. Allow yourself to be utterly present, either alone or with someone. Or even with your cat.  

 It really does make things better.

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